How to Find the Man of Your Dreams by Bob Grant review
A dating coach's plan for women who want a real relationship, not more dead ends.
By the RJ Editorial Team. Sales page checked 2026-09-23. Last updated 2026-09-23.
Is it worth it?
You have done the apps. You had the two year thing that went nowhere. At the last wedding you were the one seated with the cousins. That is exactly who this page is written for, and it knows it. It opens by asking you to pick three traits in your dream man, then spends a while describing how it feels to be the friend who is still waiting. The headline promise is a marriage proposal in twelve months or less. Treat that as the seller's promise. Nobody can put a clock on someone else's love life, and no evidence is offered for that timeline. What is actually on offer is a change of perspective from a coach with a long counselling background: why the traits you picked might be steering you wrong, why chasing tends to push men away, why settling and holding out are both traps. Grant is warm about it rather than scolding, which matters when you already feel picked over. If that lands, it costs a fraction of a few therapy sessions and you will probably come away calmer and less convinced something is wrong with you. If you want research, or the thing underneath the dating trouble is grief or anxiety, look elsewhere. It is also traditional in its framing: marriage-minded, fairly fixed ideas about men and women.
Pros
- Written by someone with real counselling experience, not just opinions
- Kind in tone, does not blame you for being single
- Cheap compared with a few sessions with a therapist
- Practical about dating behaviour, not just positive thinking
Cons
- The twelve month proposal claim is marketing, not something anyone can promise
- Very traditional framing: assumes marriage and children are the goal, and leans on fixed ideas about men and women
- The page does not state the price, what actually arrives, or that billing repeats
What you get
A digital programme from Bob Grant, a licensed counsellor who has coached women on dating for years. The core is a written step by step plan: getting clear on what you actually want in a partner, understanding why the men you meet stall or drift, and changing how you approach dating and early relationships. Billing repeats, so expect ongoing access or follow-on material rather than one download.
Before you buy
- Check the checkout page for the recurring charge amount, how often it hits, and how to cancel
- Look for the refund window and terms before you pay, since the sales page does not mention them
- Confirm what you get and when: instant download, emailed lessons, or a login
Who it suits
Single women who want a committed relationship and are tired of guessing what keeps going wrong, and who want a clear-eyed, encouraging reframe rather than clinical help
